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Foreplay Matters!

August 26, 2021 09:45 IST
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The beauty of foreplay lies in its nature of being unpredictable, the more you indulge in it, the better it gets, advises Divya Sethi, sexual wellness expert at Domina by Pee Safe, a feminine hygiene brand.

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Foreplay is the 'multivitamin' to achieve a better sex life.

While you may want to get straight to business, foreplay can enhance the entire sexual experience making it not just last longer, but adventurous too.

After all, you are not the Fast and Furious squad to go from zero to zoom in a matter of seconds!

Foreplay is crucial and how!

For men, seeing their partner aroused can heighten the sense of pleasure and for women, it can mean fireworks.

Exploring and enjoying all the nooks and corners of the body not just enhances your physical intimacy but also intensify various sensations leading to a better climax.


Here are 10 naughty tricks and tips to fire up your foreplay moments with each other.

1. Rule of the thumb

We are surrounded by a plethora of options to enhance our sexual experience these days. But there are certain things that can never go wrong.

They are so simple, yet we underestimate their beauty and what they bring to the 'foreplay table.'

  • Slow down: Savour the moment. Let it build.
  • Kiss: French/ Australian/Spiderman style- who cares? But kiss!
  • Touch: Feel your partner's body, the skin, the texture, really absorb it in.

And now let's move on to the next level.

2. Destress that mind

Had a long day at work and getting into a long commute?

Indulge in some sexting, it helps in building up the anticipation and keeps the mind fresh.

At home, give each other a massage, soak in the tub or take a shower together.

It is a great way to keep those stress hormones at bay!

Setting the mood is essential. For example, lighting: Instead of switching off the lights, use a blindfold, or get some of those scented candles and build the mood.

3. Bring out that sexy lingerie

Wear your favourite piece of lingerie and send your partner a picture of yourself (make it sexy, make it naughty).

Yes, dirty talk may excite you both but a picture can send the imagination mill running!

Visuals can be more tantalizing and take the anticipation levels higher and higher.

Besides, it will also help in setting up the mood for both of you.

4. Role play during foreplay

Role play is that secret spice to makes your foreplay spicier.

Dress up for the tease -- a nurse, a teacher, a gym buddy, -- the options are endless, as long as both of you are sexually creative and are comfortable to get your kink game on.

This act not only dramatises the moment but also helps you share your fantasies with your partner, leading to a healthier communication and let’s face it, it can be a lot of fun too.

5. Think outside that damn box

Get out of that bedroom of yours. Every act of sexual pleasure does not have to be restricted to the bed.

Pick a movie, if you are comfortable, then watch porn together. It can really fire up the senses north to south.

The couch is another territory where you can get creative, because sometimes lack of space can make the act quite a thrilling ride to get on. Literally!

And don't just stop at the couch, you'll be surprised to know of all the sexy make out spots in your house, once you move away from the bed.

6. Get wet together

Mutual masturbation is a highly recommended act by most sexologists.

Talk to each other about how you like to be touched, guide their hands and get the demo mode on.

Invest in some sex toys. This keeps things exciting and you will never run out of ideas and will keep your 'play time' more interesting. The idea is to let go and have fun together.

7. Error free erogenous zones

Erogenous zones are a sure shot method to sparkle up your foreplay moments.

These are the most sexually sensitive areas of the body.

Lips are obviously common to both genders and so is the mind -- as it fuels up the sexual desire and fantasies and makes everything more tantalising.

Focusing on the erogenous zones by touching, licking or teasing is an excellent way to keep your partner asking for more.

But the idea is not to pour all your love potion on the obvious areas, rather, explore the less obvious ones too.

You’ll be amazed to see how many sexually sensitive zones a human body has.

8. Cook up a tease

Do not underestimate the kitchen area! You can get into a sexy avatar, play hard to get and fire up your partner's senses by cooking up a tease.

Use the tongue to taste, make suggestive expressions, let them long for you but do not give in.

What also comes handy right now is some aphrodisiacs or sexy foods such as wine, dark chocolates, something tarty or any food that you and your partner enjoy.

After all, the kitchen slab is a worldwide phenomenon for trying out interesting sex positions!

9. Some BDSM for you?

50 Shades of Grey introduced many of us to the world of BDSM and you may think it is too hardcore and not for me.

But hey! It is not just about leather outfits and whips. Arousal can even happen with a little spanking, light biting, nibbling, or restraining.

Try using the feather tickler floggers, while you blindfold your partner.

Tying their arms may also heighten the pleasure anticipation for both of you.

Depending on your partner's comfort level, talking dirty also hits all the mental pleasure spots and makes the foreplay moments more intense.

10. Sexperimenting your way to glory

Another excellent way to make your foreplay moments fun is by trying Couple Games.

There are plenty options available online and can end up being quite a delight.

From naughty pranks to the art of seduction, you won't be able to stop at one.

It is an excellent way to bust your stress and get on the lighter side of things, have a laugh, get your sillies up and hey, being competitive is always sexy!

Concluding the Art of Foreplay

The beauty of foreplay lies in its nature of being unpredictable, the more you indulge in it, the better it gets.

The idea is to be as creative as possible and avoid being eerily similar.

While deriving maximum pleasure is the ultimate aim of indulging in foreplay, so is developing a seamless communication between both partners.

Encouraging your partner’s efforts and telling them how you feel is of utmost importance as this can really go a long way in making both foreplay and sex pleasurable.

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