rediffGURU Anu Krishna shares expert advice on how to deal with a monotonous relationship.
- You can post your relationship questions to rediffGURU Anu Krishna HERE.
What if you are married to a person who is lazy and disinterested?
"Marriages are not meant to be all fun and happy all the time, and over the years, they can become very boring," agrees rediffGURU Anu Krishna, mind coach and co-founder of Unfear Changemakers.
"Try something new and different in conversations and within your intimacy as well," she counsels a married woman who is stuck in a monotonous relationship.
Anonymous: Hi Anu, My husband and I have been married for 12 years.
We have a 9-year-old son. But I am bored with my husband.
He is lazy, doesn't take care of himself and there is no intimacy.
All he does is watch TV when he is at home.
Even if we goes out on holidays, he prefers to sleep in or watch TV.
He has friends with whom he goes on drinking sessions or watches a game of cricket. But that's about it.
He doesn't like to talk or discuss anything at home.
Is this even normal?
If I tell him, he says I am overreacting.
Marriages are not meant to be all fun and happy all the time, and over the years, they can become very boring.
If you have not spent the initial years bonding with one another and just kept it to getting by day-to-day, you will see what you are seeing now in your marriage.
Try something new and different in conversations and within your intimacy as well.
I also want you to think: Has he suddenly turned into this lazy and not-caring person?
Has this to do with something going on with his work, his health or other family commitments? You can work a bit behind the scenes to figure this one out as well.
If he has chosen this treatment only for you, I would suggest you watch out and take charge before it becomes something bigger.
Do a bit of your research on this and see what comes up so that you can figure out if he's just bored or has checked out of the marriage.
All the best!
- You can post your relationship questions to rediffGURU Anu Krishna HERE.
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