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10 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life

By DIVYANSH MEHTA
January 20, 2022 12:27 IST
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Your relationship can still be as intimate as before.
All you have to do is to try some new blings, keep note of a few slings, and have an open mind for new things, suggests Divyansh Mehta, brand communications, Pee Safe, a feminine hygiene brand.

How to spice up your relationship

Kindly note the image -- a scene from Four More Shots Please that streams on Amazon Prime -- has been posted only for representational purposes.

Your relationship might get a bit boring with time.

You'll start feeling that the fire that fueled your chemistry is now slowly dying out, and distance makes its way between you two.

However, this may sound unusual, yet it's completely normal and happens to the best of us!

One cannot just always stay in the ways of vanilla; you have to go out of your comfort zone and explore the wide range of wise action and emotion that raise an appropriate commotion.

While we may agree that intimacy happens on its own and takes its course and time, we cannot deny that once it sets in, there’s literally no end to it.

Exploring the intimacy of one's relationship can lead to a happier, longer-lasting relationship.

You can learn more about your partner's likes and dislikes, and experience a new form of pleasure. But what do we do when the ever-burning fire of desire begins to fade?

We add some spice, a little ice, roll a dice, and make everything pretty nice.

10 healthy tips to help you spice up your relationship:

1. Learn their love language

The first and most important step in spicing up your intimate life is to figure out what makes your partner feel loved and do more of it.

It could be anything from sharing responsibilities to going out frequently, watching movies, doing activities together, and a variety of other options.

All you have to do is listen to your partner and fully comprehend their desires!

2. Exploring new avenues together

It's critical to keep trying new things in your relationship and break the monotony every now and then.

This keeps things interesting and gives you something to look forward to with your partner.

It's as simple as ordering from a new restaurant or venturing into uncharted territory; all you have to do is try.

Things that are new. Who knows what you'll discover on your next rock-climbing adventure!

3. Always stay consistent

Consistency in your efforts aids in the development of a stronger bond with your significant other.

You and your partner may have been together for months or years, but a couple will only be happy for a long time if both parties work hard to keep each other happy and content.

For example, when you first started dating, you would get flowers for them every other day.

Now, despite the time and years spent, you must ensure that you continue to do these small things and do not forget about them.

4. Keep them surprised

Who doesn't enjoy a pleasant surprise?

So, why not surprise your partner with a surprise party or take them on an outing without revealing the location or plan?!

A nondescript day full of activities where you two can simply enjoy each other's company and do something other than your usual routine.

5. Learn new moves

If your life's gear is set and locked in missionary, then it's time to pick up the holy book and add a new groove to your library.

Here's a whole book dedicated to the various positions and acts that can entice and splice your sex life.

Vanilla is only preferred in ice cream; when doing the dance, it's better if you bring out a variety of adventures that you and your partner can explore together in bed.

6. A little role play goes very far

No, we are not asking you to play the kind of doctor-doctor you played when you were kids.

This is a similar setting for a very different outcome.

It's the best way to test out your kinks, figure out what makes your partner tick. Like, how can a patient refuse the sexy nurse take a closer look at things when no one is around to bother them?

7. Make the act more playful

Talking about adding spice without mentioning any vice?

Another way to make things interesting is by adding more elements to play, like massagers, lubricants, adult games, and a wide range of not so kid-friendly toys.

But, always remember to talk to your partner and ensure that they are on the same page as you with all of the extra props you are bringing to the act.

8. Take some time out for yourself too

While it's essential to get more involved with your partner, it's equally important to indulge yourself too, or figure out your own pleasure.

How? Exploring yourself, silly!

Immersing in the act of masturbation or the discovery of your self-pleasure can help you understand your needs and communicate them in a better manner to your significant other.

If you don't know what drives your pleasure, how can someone else take charge of it?

9. Lighten up the room

Scented candles, new fragrances, and entrancing colognes... these are all some small steps that lead to a farther destination.

The human body can surprise you at times.

Our senses are perceptible to the changes around us and there are certain fragrances and oils that can help take your senses out for a ride and increase your drive. So, always keep experimenting.

10. Consent is the key

Lastly but most importantly, always make sure that you have your partner's consent for any new additions you are bringing to the table.

Discussing things with your partner first hand and explaining the how and why can help both be comfortable during the deed and give their all to get the maximum out of it.

Apart from having their consent, it's also important to have safe words in place, for those moments when things seem to get out of hand.

With time, most relationships may lose their charm, but trying new things can maybe help reduce the harm.

These tips and tricks work better when layered with lots of communication.

Your relationship can still be as close or intimate as before. All you have to do is to try some new blings, keep note of a few slings, and have an open mind for new things.

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