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Why foreplay is important for good sex!

By Dr A V Lohit
June 02, 2016 14:22 IST
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For men, it ensures an erection, and for women, it ensures lubrication.


Lovemaking is not just restricted to the part of having sex.

If you are forgetting foreplay, you are missing out one of the best parts of the lovemaking experience.

But the pleasure of foreplay is just one part of it; you need to understand the biological perspective to gain an insight into the nature of the stimulation. 

While men are aroused in a few minutes, women take more time to get to the state. 

Foreplay ensures that both partners are at their peak of arousal at the time of sexual intercourse. And it also helps in attaining orgasm for both. 

At the initial stages, individuals don't need to prolong foreplay to get aroused.

But with age, it becomes important to get full arousal and get ready to have an intense and satisfying lovemaking experience.

Otherwise, it will only be a half-hearted attempt at something that ensures the best time of your life. 

For men, it ensures an erection, and for women, it ensures lubrication to make the experience pleasurable to both.

It is normal for a regular sexual relationship to fall into a routine; you need to have a good idea about how to use foreplay to spice things up. 

Now that you have an idea about why it is important, let us find out more!

What constitutes foreplay? 

From hugging, kissing, caressing, petting, fondling, to teasing, undressing and oral sex are part of it.

However, it is not about touch alone, anything from looking at each other longingly, reading a dirty novel, to seeing a movie together or giving her a neck massage may lead to arousal.

Remember, a long kiss on the mouth can be a good beginning.

But it's not essentially the end.

Long lingering kisses on every body part is often the best experience for a woman, and can lead to arousal with ease. 

Why do you need to create the right mood? 

In the mature stage of a relationship, you need to prepare the right setup to ensure full arousal.

Soft lights, cozy temperature, clean sheets, may be some aromatic candles can make up a romantic ambiance.

Play her favorite music while you undress her to set the mood. 

How do you know what to do? 

There are no sets of dos and don'ts when it comes to foreplay.

You need to learn about what your partner likes and dislikes on the go.

Concentrate on the cues. Make her comfortable.

Talk about how lovely she looks and how sexy her lingerie is while you fondle and caress her. You need to find out what arouses her.

For some women, kisses on the neck and behind the ears can lead to arousal, while for others, oral stimulation may be necessary to get them stimulated.

Identify your partner's erogenous zones to make foreplay a great experience. 

How long? 

Again, there is no set formula in this regard.

You can do it for as long as you and your partner want.

Once you two are completely aroused, you can go on with the lovemaking experience.

With the right kind and amount of foreplay, you two can achieve orgasm easily and have a better and more satisfying time. 

Is foreplay necessary?

Sometimes, spontaneous sexual encounters are the best experiences.

But that's the exception, not the rule.

For most women, arousal takes time and stimulation.

And foreplay provides the perfect opportunity for her to get to the state where she becomes excited with desire.

Foreplay constitutes the prelude to the lovemaking experience. You can let go of it, but it won't be the same.

If you want to have the best pleasurable time, first you need to make sure that your partner has it too.

Lead image used for representational purpose only.

Photograph: Courtney Carmody/Creative Commons

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Dr A V Lohit is a Bangalore-based Sexologist


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