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January 04, 2007

Singles surfing the Internet for relationships may need to more careful; a new poll shows many singles believe it is acceptable to tell a little white lie while dating online.

According to the latest 'Manners And Behaviours' survey by the US company, Engage.com, 24 per cent of the respondents believe it is okay to tweak the truth while dating online. The site, co-founded by Suneet Wadhwa, requires people to engage family and friends in the matchmaking effort.

While 30 per cent of the men polled believe one can lie while dating online, the corresponding figure for women was 19 per cent.

Twenty-one per cent of the respondents identified income as the main topic singles lie about in their online dating profile.

Next come weight/ body type (16 per cent) and age (14 per cent); 12 per cent consider it okay to lie about their height and the reason why they are looking for a relationship.

"Truthfulness may be the ideal, but many online daters seem to feel it is both necessary and acceptable to use little white lies," said Joelle Kaufman, vice president, Engage.com.                                                                      

"For instance, we know women generally feel pressure to be younger when dating online, but the Engage.com survey shows men may feel even greater pressure to lie about their age. Users of traditional online dating sites complain about the lack of honesty within profiles."

When asked to rate their dating manners, 82 per cent rate themselves good to excellent. They also think their own dating manners are better than the manners of the people they date; only 66 per cent of respondents rated the manners of their dates as excellent to good.

As far as communications rules were concerned, 30 per cent say it is okay to blog about your date/ romantic relationship. Nearly 20 per cent feel it is acceptable to discuss details of your break-up on Web-based outlets like as MySpace or YouTube.

However, more than 80 per cent of the respondents felt it was improper to break up with someone via email, chat, instant messenger or SMS. Only nine per cent admitted to having separated with a girlfriend/ boyfriend using these modes of communication.

Nearly a quarter of the singles polled think it is appropriate to say I love you for the first time using email, chat, instant messenger or SMS, but only 11 per cent said they had ever done so. More men (29 per cent) than women (19 per cent) felt this was okay.

Get Ahead writer Merlin Francis, who found love online, has some suggestions for singles who plan to use the Net to find their soulmate:

Anita Bora, in her article on Do's and dont's in cyberspace, gives these tips:

While writing a profile

While reading a profile

Diwan Rahul Nanda is chairman and MD, security organisation, Topsgrup, makes these suggestions for women who are dating online.

So, if you are planning to date online, have fun but be safe.

With inputs from the Get Ahead desk



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looking for sweet nature female friend of about32 years


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Will anyone like me?


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Well, so far I haven't. But that also puts chances of dating at a low because women are attracted even by falsehood.


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