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![[If you're addicted to porn this is one site you have to visit]](23lead.gif)
Daniel Rosario

A random surfer often encounters phrases like 'xxx porn' or 'xxx live'. It
hardly causes one to raise an eyebrow. But the eyebrow does arch, and arch
high, at the mention of 'xxx church'. What in the world?, was my immediate
reaction. And I probed further.
The title bar promotes the domain as 'the number 1 Christian porn site'.
Again I say, Christian porn?
But as I surfed, I began to unravel the site's meaning and purpose. It
became apparent that it offers neither nude pictures nor pornographic
literature. What it does, is a contemporary and relevant approach to dealing with and countering porn on the Internet. Its mission is "to bring
awareness, openness, accountability, and recovery to the church, society,
and individuals in the issues of pornography and to provide solutions
through non-judgmental and creative means."
Non-judgmental because the site's creators realise that pornography isn't
something that only affects certain sections of society: no one is above
temptation. As the site puts it, "Xxxchurch.com is not here to bash
pornographers or the adult entertainment industry, but to build bridges to
this industry because we believe they are part of the solution. We are not
here to judge those who are struggling with this problem, but to help people
navigate through an ever changing society and to help the church deal with
these issues."
It is of the opinion that the church needs to recognise porn as a problem,
and "be bold enough to take on the dirty little secret." So, the site is
intended as a resource for church leaders and youth workers.
Yet, one can't but wonder at the name xxxchurch - there couldn't be a more
striking mix of the sacred and the profane. The reason is tactical: People
who use search engines to find porn sites, type in keywords like 'xxx'. Now, as this site incorporates the keyword in its address and title, it is liable to be among the search results, thus enabling the site to be found by its target audience. "We believe that if the pornographers are using the net to promote their product, then we need to use it to promote our message," the site says.
For those who feel guilty and ashamed about their addiction to pornography,
the organisation wants "to let you know that you are loved by God. You are
not alone. You do not have to carry this burden any longer. The entire
reason for having this Web site is to give people hope and to let them know
that there is help for these issues."
Its philosophy revolves around the theory that ignoring a problem won't make
it go away. Therefore, it provides information on pornography. Its target
audience comprises teenagers because they are most vulnerable to online
pornography: "We want them to have access to truthful information presented
in an understandable and relevant way."
What is appealing about its approach is the absolute lack of an
authoritarian stance. When talking of unsavoury habits, it uses the pronouns
'we' and 'us' instead of the rather accusatory 'you'. The language is casual
and friendly, replete with contemporary slang: "This is not what God had
planned for us. He wants us to look at our spouses … not the hoochie mama
on the cover of Playboy magazine." The producers of the site realise that
attraction to the opposite sex is natural: "If you notice a cute girl,
congratulations… you are alive!!" However, as they observe, "the problem
sets in when we long for more."
The site was the brainchild of Mike Foster, who noticed the proliferation of
church recovery groups for alcoholics and drug addicts, and "began to wonder
if there was an issue that people are struggling with and needing real help
for that the church wasn't dealing with." He realised that pornography "is
destroying our families, our marriages, our children's innocence, and our
careers."
Mike felt it was time people stopped accusing each other and focused on
tackling the problem: "We can point our fingers and gossip about those who
have been caught downloading images. We can condemn and pretend that it is a
problem that only a few perverted men deal with. However, I challenge you to
step out of your box for a moment and look at the truth."
There are special sections for men,
women, teens, singles, parents, and clergymen, and informative articles on
how pornography can affect business.
A section called Temptation
Island talks about the
media's influence, and another page gives tips on dealing with porn spam and tracking down the
administrators. You can also find articles on Biblical references on the role of sexuality.
Besides, the site encourages users to register and have 'accountability partners' - a couple of close
friends, relatives or priests whom you can confide in, and who will help you
overcome an addiction to pornography. It plans to release free software that will email a monthly list of questionable sites you visit to you and your accountability partners.
There are also startling facts. Did you know, for instance,
that 30 million people log on to pornographic Web sites daily? You can
download video clips of
messages, and take a personal inventory on the toll pornography has taken on you.
Craig Gross, who runs the site along with Mike, maintains that people are
quick to identify a problem, but often do nothing about it. A young man
himself, he has "the same temptations as most guys. I do not expect to put
an end to pornography or to criticise porn peddlers. With God's help, I want
to raise awareness of the problem, help people be open about it, start
accountability amongst people, and see recovery in the lives of many."
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