When people talk about the 'first time', they usually mean the first time you have full intercourse. And that's what 'losing your virginity' means.

But for you a first time might also mean your first kiss, or the first time you indulge in foreplay with someone. Or the first time with your new boyfriend or girlfriend.

Whatever first time it is, it's something you'll never forget. It's exciting and special. That's why it's important to make sure it's a really nice experience.

How can you make sure your first time is a good experience? We've put together ten tips for first-time sex:

1. Start when you feel ready

There is only one person who can decide if you're ready to have sex for the first time: you. Listen to your own feelings and don't let yourself be talked into anything.

On average, people have intercourse for the first time when they're 17 years old.

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Do it with someone you feel relaxed with. Take time for each other, say sweet or exciting things to each other. You'll increase the chance that the first time will feel good to both of you.

Curious about the places that feel nice? Discover your own and your partner's sensitive places!

Do it in a place you feel comfortable and where you won't be disturbed. Create a nice atmosphere, perhaps with music and candles.

You don't have to do everything straight away. Build up the excitement slowly, so you both get aroused. When a girl gets sexually aroused, her vagina gets lubricated. This is important, because otherwise intercourse would hurt.

For three-quarters of all young people, the voyage of sexual discovery goes in this order: first kiss, caressing under clothes, pleasuring each other till climax, indulging in foreplay and finally intercourse.

Once you've started, you might realise that you actually don't want to do it. Don't ignore this feeling. You can always stop, whatever the other person says. Do things at your own pace. Be clear. If you say 'no' but at the same time keep kissing and caressing, your partner won't be able to tell what you really want.

You don't have sex just for yourself. You have sex together. So pay attention to your partner.

Is s/he enjoying it? Ask. Is s/he nervous? Try to reassure your partner by saying loving things. Does your partner feel insecure about you seeing him/her naked? Give compliments. Can you tell your partner doesn't want to go any further? Respect his/her wishes.

You can really enjoy making love without having intercourse.

The first time you probably won't know quite what you should do. Pay attention to the way your partner responds. Does your partner moan? Does he or she guide your hand to a particular place? These are signs that you're heading in the right direction.

But often the signals aren't so clear. So talk to each other about what you'd like to try or not. Many people find talking about it really arousing too.

Always use a condom. That way, you not only prevent unwanted pregnancy but also protect against sexually transmitted diseases. The pill only stops the girl from getting pregnant.

Accidents with condoms are nearly always the result of using them wrongly. So read the instructions carefully and use one to practice. Boys can practice on themselves, girls can practice by putting a condom on a banana, for example.

You can learn more about using condoms by accessing the Internet.

There's no rule that says you have to have an orgasm. Don't pretend to have an orgasm. It's not fair to your partner. Anyway, making love without having an orgasm can also be wonderful.

The first time you'll probably both be a bit nervous. You want everything to be perfect and the first time to be amazing. So you might both be a bit tense and serious. Try to keep the mood light. Humour and sex are a perfectly good mix!