ankit asked, Love guru, I perposed a girl 3 yrs ago. She also responded slowly slowly. but I still dont know She loves me or not? Should I follow her or forget her?

Love Guru answers, Ask her once and for all to make up her mind and stop wasting your time. Or another 3 years will go by and then she might say no!

Mudita asked, Hi.. My problem is li'l serious and i am really seeking some profesional help.. I am in Love with this guy from last 5 years and know him well.. He is a south indian and i am a north indian gal.. so, parents are not agreeing for this relation. My parents says that if guy wud have been from Delhi, they might not have denied this relation but as the guy lives in Bangalore, they are not agreeing to it. me and the guy, we both are earning well.. I do respect my parents a lot but i do love this guy like anything.. i really dont know what should i do? This is kind of problem, i dont know how to handle.. Please help

Love Guru answers, Listen, your parents are basing their judgement on the circumstances, not the guy himself. If he lived in Delhi he would be fine for you, but in Bangalore he's not? What has any of this got to do with the kind of person he is and how happy he'll make you in future? Stupid way of thinking. If you both have made up your minds, go ahead with it, but I hope you know what adjustments you're in for, moving from Delhi to Bangalore -- and the job market is very fragile right now too, so be prepared for any eventuality. I think your parents will come around to it eventually.

abcxyz asked, hi tell me is this chat is only for unisex or also bi sex also

Love Guru answers, Listen, nobody here is judged on the basis of their sexual orientation or preferences. If you have a problem, you're most welcome to ask any kind of question -- whether you're straight, gay or in between.

dipesh asked, i loved girl from last 8 years i proposed her she says no wht should i do

Love Guru answers, For heaven's sake, move on! Enough is enough -- learn to accept a 'no' gracefully and stop pestering her!

selva asked, I am 29....searching for my better half. Recently my parents liked one of my friends who is actually my junior and obviously we both belong to the same profession. My parents spoke to her dad. they were also happy to associate themselves with us. But the girl is not interested. However, this has not disturbed the friendship which we share.We both are known to each other for almost close to a decade. We respect each other, have good opinion on each other. The fact that my family too liked her makes me feel that I am missing the right girl.I do not want to leave this jus like that. Feel like giving the best shot possible as I believe we both deserve each other.... need your words of wisdom pls,

Love Guru answers, Talk to the girl about why she's not interested. Point out all the positive points about your relationship like you've just pointed out to me and ask her why she doesn't want to give it a try. And accept her explanation graciously, whatever it is.

rsmwchn asked, How can you access your relationship ? If someone does not picks ur call show less interested on you or otherwise

Love Guru answers, Then you stop pursuing that person -- because he/ she has clearly made it known that there's no interest.

wwe asked,  Hi! Love guru.i am 32 yr old male, one yr back i saw girl as arrange marriage proposal.Our family visited her home. she is 25yr old. i liked her at first sight (love at first sight), very simple family so is my family.after 4 days she told me on telephonic conversation that it was ok from her side but father was not willing. I lost my control n scolded her n said her that u all girls always prefer money/ rich guy and not good people( she sms me that she is hurt by my comment ). i told her that i am deleting her mobile number. Now after 1 yr she is yet unmarried. my family including me all like her very much. I have no idea whether she likes me or still her answer is negative. Please guide me what should i do?

Love Guru answers, You're a fool to react like you did. If her father didn't like you, why accuse her of being a gold digger? And if she didn't like you and used him as an excuse, it was only to spare your feelings instead of insulting you on your face and saying she didn't like you. What you need to do first is apologise for acting like a total jerk. And ask her to tell you the truth about what happened. Promise to accept her answer gracefully. If it was really her father, maybe you can talk to him and change his mind. If it's her decision, accept it and wish her all the best. And love at first sight etc is all very fine in storybooks -- till you know a person well, you can't say you love him or her.

naveen asked, i have a girl in my life who is interested only on sex.even i came to know before me she had lots of sexual relationship other guys and even she is having a physical relation ship with a guy now.i dont know wats going on and she is forcing me to get married to her.i dnt want to get married to her and i dont want to break up with her coz m sexually satisfied with her. wat i shud do now

Love Guru answers, Naveen, you need to have a real relationship with her, where you're committed to each other, or then call things off completely. These 'friends with benefits' arrangements don't work out in the long run. If you like her as a person and want to spend the rest of your life with her, she needs to straighten up her act from now on -- but don't bother with the past. If you're sure this is only about the sex, as much as you may enjoy it, give it up -- because sooner or later, it will cause you more trouble than it is worth.

aaaa asked, dear love guru, i had a 'girl' in my life before marriage who also had a boy friend, she was comfortable with me despite having her boyfriend, though her boyfriend didnt knew about our relationship...right now I'm married from almost a year and quite a happy with my married life and wife..., even the girl is also married with his boyfriend...recently we met and she insisted me to be in her life (physically)...i dont know what to say and what to do please help.....

Love Guru answers, What to say is 'no' and what to do is steer clear of her! You're married and happy -- and she chose her boyfriend over you. So stop wallowing in the past and concentrate on your own wife and future.

vbn asked, I met one girl while driving to office,offered her lift in the car and I dropped her at her office. I took her mobile number. Now I am in fear whether should I call her to meet again otherwise she will take in wrong way.What you suggest.

Love Guru answers, Well, the fact that she gave you her number means she may not mind you asking her out. Why not try inviting her to coffee after work? And then you can drop her home. Keep things casual and friendly, but not over-friendly. Take it slow.

manu2 asked, I am married for 8 years and I have a 6 year old boy. I am an introvert and my wife keeps naging me about me talking less. We are not in talking terms since couple of weeks. Should I go for a divorce. I feel mentally down because of her taunts.

Love Guru answers, Listen, I don't think this situation requires as drastic a measure as divorce. Sit your wife down, tell her this is your nature and that you don't appreciate her taunting you all the time. How would she like it if you kept telling her to talk less? Say that she is ruining your relationship with this behaviour and will destroy your marriage over something so trivial. At the same time, I would advise you, personally, to stop being so mute and unapproachable around people. Talking a little to people around you doesn't hurt. Maybe your lack of communication may be perceived outside as snobbery or stand-offish behaviour.

reflexk asked, Dear LG, I am almost 25, and have always been in mixed schools. Yet, apart from the lusty feelings and infatuations/limerence, I have never seen anyone whom I can totally relate with or have true feelings for. And yes - I did and do have plenty of female friends. Currently, I am abroad (a pretty cosmopolitan city) as a postgrad student, and I have met some interesting girls - who are from another race and never really seemed to consider me (or anyone outside their race) as a prospective bf. Even if they did, I am not too sure how things can proceed, given the sea of difference in backgrounds/religion/food etc. I don't come across too many Indians here either. I cant imagine marrying someone though the usual matrimonial methods; and my parents are kind of open - which means I am sort of a loser if I end up having an arranged marriage. Will I end up single for life :P?

Love Guru answers, No, of course not! Why are you thinking like that? Since you have a lot of female friends, maybe one of them will be able to help you. Ask her why you're never perceived as boyfriend material by women and what you can do to change that. Also, don't assume to know what women abroad think -- who says they never consider boyfriends outside their own race? You're assuming that. Ask girls you're attracted to out on dates -- at the most they'll say no. So what? A 'no' never killed anybody!

Love Guru says, Time out, guys! See you next week and in the meantime, email me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com! Cheers!

Also see: 'I slept with one brother, want to marry the other'