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Can relationships be toxic?

August 28, 2018 17:05 IST

On-off relationships are associated with higher rates of abuse and communication gap, a study has revealed.

Can relationships be toxic?

Did you know that on-off relationships can be toxic for your mental health?

Such relationships are associated with higher rates of abuse, poorer communication and lower levels of commitment, a new study reveals.

There are characters like Sam and Diane from Cheers, Ross and Rachel from Friends, and Carrie and Mr Big from Sex and the City, which were a part of on-off relationships, keeping us entertained.

However, a researcher from the University of Missouri, Columbia says that the pattern of breaking up and getting back together can be harmful for an individual's mental health.

He suggests that people in these kinds of relationships should make informed decisions about stabilizing or safely terminating their relationships.

Prior research has estimated that more than 60 per cewnt of adults have been involved in on-off relationships, and more than one-third of cohabiting couples reported breaking up and later reconciling at some point.

Compared to relationships without this pattern, on-off relationships are associated with higher rates of abuse and communication gap.

"Breaking up and getting back together is not always a bad omen for a couple. In fact, for some couples, breaking up can help partners realize the importance of their relationship, contributing to healthier, more committed unions. On the other hand, partners who are routinely breaking up and getting back together could be negatively impacted by the pattern," said Kale Monk, assistant professor of human development and family science.

Monk and co-authors Brian Ogolsky and Ramona Oswald examined data from more than 500 individuals currently in relationships.

They found that an increase in breaking up and reuniting was associated with more psychological distress symptoms such as depression and anxiety.

They did not find meaningful differences between same-sex and heterosexual relationships in this pattern.

Partners break up and reunite for a number of reasons; a common one is necessity or practicality.

For example, a person might stay in a relationship for financial reasons or partners might stay together because they feel they have invested too much time into the relationship to leave.

However, Monk advises that former partners should get back together based on dedication, and not on obligation.

Monk suggested a few tips for couples that included, when considering rekindling a relationship that ended or avoiding future breakups:

The findings appeared in the journal of Family Relations.

Lead image -- a still from Ye Jawaani Hai Deewani -- used for representational purposes only.