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Is your partner faking an orgasm?

May 03, 2014 12:27 IST


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Here's how you can be a star in bed. This and more sex and relationship news.

Even though it is a known fact that men only care about their own pleasure in the bedroom, the truth is that most men are very invested in their partner's sexual experience.

Making their partner feel good is more than just an ego boost; it's inherently tied to their love and care of their partner. It's also tied to their sense of masculinity, and how they feel about their sexual performance and abilities.

So no wonder so many men fear that their partner is faking the big "O"!

According to Fox News, if you are worried that your partner might be faking, there are some tips to keep in mind.

Rather than trying to piece together clues or read her body language, it might be better to just come right out and ask.

Don't accuse her of faking or make her feel put on the spot. Instead, ask her what she likes most during foreplay or intercourse.

If she's feeling shy, take the first step by sharing your own fantasies or by telling her about your own sexual desires. Have your discussion over a glass of wine or on a date night, when she is really in the mood to open up.

Consider sex aids. Sex aids can be incredibly helpful when it comes to closing the arousal gap between men and women. (Women can take up to 20 minutes to become fully aroused, while men might need as little 7.5 minutes).

With a sex toy, you can help intensify and increase her pleasure, and you can also take the guesswork out of figuring out her hotspots.

Cue into her moans and coos. While you don't want to constantly second guess yourself or worry about whether or not she is actually enjoying herself, you can learn some things from her body language.

If she moans and coos when you touch her a certain way, it's a good clue that she is enjoying herself and you should keep doing what you are doing.

Encourage her to open up and become part of the experience. Once she realises that you truly want to please her, she will become a very willing participant.

It's also important to keep in mind that orgasm isn't the be all and end all of every sexual experience.

Make it your goal to focus on pleasure and on the sensual experience of lovemaking so you both feel connected and desired.

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Men experience bliss with sex, women chocolates

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A new poll has revealed that while both Frenchmen and women consider sex and food as catalysts of happiness, women prefer chocolates while for men sex brings them bliss. 

According to the Harris Interactive poll, female poll participants said they would rather cut back on sex than to cut back on food as it’s the key to felicity for them, whereas French men believe sex is the surest route to happiness, the New York Daily News reported. 

The poll also found that women more often cited chocolate or strawberries and men more often plumped for meatier options like foie gras and steak. 

The polling agency said that for 72 per cent of French people it's worse to have a partner who's bad in bed than bad in the kitchen. 

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Cash causes couples to lie more than any other subject: Study


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Men and women have very different views on infidelity, according to a study. 

The study is set out to determine how people feel about sexual or emotional infidelity. 

The researchers from Kansas State University recruited 477 adults that consisted of 238 men and 239 women and then asked them to fill out numerous questionnaires on a variety of topics that included relationships and cheating. 

The researchers concluded that males reported sexual infidelity scenarios were relatively more distressing than emotional infidelity scenarios, but it was true of females on the other hand. 

The study revealed that men were most upset by physical cheating and women were more upset when they were cheated emotionally. 

The study has been published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology.

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Cash causes couples to lie more than any other subject


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One in seven people have admitted financially cheating on their partner by hiding credit card bills, underestimating salaries and refusing to tell them how much they have spent, according to a survey. 

Eight per cent of Britons said that they conceal items that they have bought for the fear of their spouse finding out that they have spent money, the Daily Express reported. 

According to price comparison website confused.com people would rather reveal their real age (31 per cent) or number of lovers they’ve had (20 per cent) before admitting the full extent of their spending. 

Bad hygiene (71 per cent) and cheating (83 per cent) were the only other character traits that repelled people more.

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