Rediff's Love Guru has answers to all your relationship problems.
SKY: I am in love with a married girl she is having two kids, and I am also married having 1 kid now we both want to move ahead and start new life together...till now we both live life for other now we both want to live life for us...please help what to do. Both are not happy with our arrange marriage.
Love Guru: Sky, since you both have decided to break up your marriages and go your own way, fine. But please find out the modalities, you may be surprised to find out that it is not all that easy. I mean, you can't just shrug off your present marriage and marry someone else, there are procedures to be dealt with, etc. You will discover it as you go along
Asif rashid: what is the best way to impress a lady who is interested to make friendship with other male persons.
Love Guru: Asif Rashid, no idea. When you find out, please let me know as well
Jaya Banerjee: i am in love with a boy he too likes me. we are in a relationship for past 8 months. He said he cant marry me as his parents wont agree.how to convince him.
Love Guru: Jaya Banerjee, more than him I think you may need to convince his parents. Before that, do you know why his parents won't agree to him marrying you? Are you sure he is not using his parents to wriggle out of the relationship? These are some questions you need to find answers for
amitabh dash: Hi recently confronted my sister for chatting with a married guy with 2 grown up kids. I found the chats to be flirtatious. She stopped chatting mentioning that there is nothing wrong. few days back she told that she fell for him. Shall I inform his wife as I got her number from sources. I think both are cheating and need to put an end to this.
Love Guru: Amitabh Dash, I can understand your brotherly concerns but in this case trying to be proactive, the steps you are contemplating, can have the contrary effect. Don't let your anger cloud your judgement.
diksha: Hi...i love a girl but my family is against me...wat should i do
Love Guru: Diksha, the point is, your family loves you. Does the girl love you back? Find that out first
svk2356: hi i m in relation with girl from last 5 yrs, she is elder than me by 4 yrs now i want to get married with her without telling my parents. tell me what to do
Love Guru: svk256, Since you have already decided to marry her, what is left for me to say but, Congratulations!
Kohina: hi, my best friend has started developing feelings for me, he is married. should I stop all communication with him? will it be wrong on my part to continue being friends knowing how he feels
Love Guru: Kohina, should you lose a friend -- that's your call. There's a possibility, however, that the fact you continue to talk to him could give him ideas -- men are that way stupid creatures who see things in black and white. If the friendship matters much to you, you say he is your best friend, so why don't you tell him how you feel, so there is no misunderstanding or false hopes from his side.
vajresh: Hi, i am truely loving one girl and also proposed same to that girl, but she's rejected reasons for that she dont believe love, what would i do.
Love Guru: Vajresh, move on, that's what you should be doing. She has categorically told you she is not interested in you. There could be some other girl who could be interested in you, wait till that happens.
akhilesh: one girl near to me she look into me deep i also like here, i tried to speak but it never works what should i do
Love Guru: Akhilesh, I will be able to help you if I knew what you are trying to say
Ramaswamy Jayaram: am in cursh with my daughter's ex teacher, she frequents our house and taking my calls regularly she is married. borrowed money few times. off late she says please donot call me, when requested says call me once in a week. am crazy of her though she does not have great looks but feel like talking to her every now and then and gets upset when she avoids me, pleae help
Love Guru: Ramaswamy Jayaram, are you out of your mind? For heaven's sake act your age and not like an hormonal teenager. What's got into you, you are a married man with a daughter and you are attracted to a married woman who is your daughter's teacher? I am not being moralistic here, just pointing out the absurdity of the situation to you. What you are doing could ruin your life, yes, but also hers.
sneha shetty: My boyfriend used to love me a lot nowadays he does not give me time as he used to do before, when I ask him he says that there is a lot of work pressure, but he does that even on his off days, and most of the time he keeps his mobile phone switched off, please help?
Love Guru: Sneha Shetty... Hmmm, that sounds like the classic symptoms of you know what. But to give him the benefit of the doubt, it's possible too that he is under enormous work pressure; which is spilling over into his off days as well. Men are incapable of handling too many demands on their attention, so if work takes it then other relationships take a back seat. Hope it is that way with him, too.
Shubham Paldewar: hi LG, please give me some tips to handle my complex GF?
Love Guru: Shubham Paldewar, why don't you get her along as well so I can advise both of you how to handle complex personalities. The point is, you have been reading too many books, seeing too many films where the woman is portrayed as complex. That's so wrong. The truth is, both men and women are complex, okay make it all people are complex. Dealing with people is an art, ask yourself if you have it in you
Saurav Goswami: Lg, my gf had broken up with me a year back and now she wants to come back in my life, she was the one who broke up with me, but still I was trying to convince her but that time she had made up her mind that she does not want to be in a relation with me and now all of a sudden after a year, she wants to come back in my life, I am confused what should I do?
Love Guru: Saurav Goswami, your decision. You are the injured party. Do you still feel the same way about her? Or have you emotionally moved on? If you are still feeling strongly about her, will you be able to overcome the hurt she caused you? Will you be able to say with certainty she won't do it again? Ask yourself these questions and more. And when you are convinced, take a decision, either way.
jasin dmello: Lg, I love a girl and I proposed her, but she smiled and she ran away without saying anything, what does this mean?
Love Guru: Jasin D'Mello, you sure she smiled before running away? So long as she smiled, I guess there's nothing to worry about. Have you met/encountered her after that incident? What happened then?
randeev mehta: LG, my Gf get irritated on me over small issues, such as if I come a little late from office, she doubts me, if I got out with my friends she does not talk to me, I asked her why is she behaving like that but she does not tell me anything, what should I do?
Love Guru: Randeev Mehta, since you don't seem to know, she is being possessive
Awinash Garad: How to say I Love You to my lover. i dont know she love me or not
Love Guru: Awinash Garad, if you don't know if she loves you or not, you shouldn't be saying those three words to her. They are not to be casually uttered, they pack a lot of meaning and emotion. So before you use them, find out if she loves you
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