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7 tips to keep your woman happy in bed

March 08, 2018 11:15 IST

Don't force it, just be warm and be gentle.

How to keep your woman happy

It doesn't take much time for a man to get sufficiently aroused. But the same cannot be said about a woman.

However, these super-sexy erotic tips for men to get their women hot and ready can do the trick.

As you may know, sexual arousal actually begins with an increased blood flow to the genitals, and not necessarily with being wet.

Wet doesn't necessarily mean that she is ready. That may only be a precursor to readiness. But this is just one sexy tip...

Let's take a look at some erotic tips that you can use to satisfy your partner like never before.

1. Take it slow and easy

So you decide to slow down and indulge in some foreplay before the actual act.

But what do you do during this time?

How about some caressing?

You can use every inch of her body as a playground and caress her till she is ready for you to reach between her legs.

Don't just get stuck in two or three areas. Instead explore your partner's body.

You can slowly fondle her ears, neck, arms, legs, back, chest as well as her feet.

All of these parts of the body -- and the other ones -- can create sensual sensations.

2. Ask her what she wants

Sometimes sex should also be about your partner.

The best way to make her feel special and to incite a fast sensual response is by caressing her and asking her if she likes it.

Similarly, you can also ask for things she doesn't like or the things she would like you to do instead. Use this as an opportunity to learn more about your partner.

Asking questions like, "Do you like it?" or "Would you like me to try this?" can also help.

3. Keep your tickles in check

Being ticklish could mean different things to different women.

For some women, it is sensually satisfactory, while for others it may seem like a discomfort.

So while you are trying to understand what your partner likes or dislikes, you might want to check if a tickle falls into any of these categories.

For instance, drawing a 'W' or an '8' on her tummy might seem ticklish. But keeping your warm palm on it, might not.

4. A French kiss is not always the best kiss

Yes, you read that right!

Kissing often doesn't get as much due as it deserves.

It is not just about crashing your lips against hers or pushing your tongue down her throat. In fact, a lot of women don't even like French kissing.

You have a constant play for lips and touch, warm breath and an inviting nibble. So instead of an aggressive kiss, you go in gently.

Caress her lips and then softly touch her lips with yours. Kissing shouldn't be a quickie act, it should feel like you are soul searching.

5. Let them wait a little

The entire point of caressing her body is to let her warm up and get into the mood.

If you simply thrust yourself upon her and reach between her legs, then you lose the battle.

Instead, caress her entire body and once both of you are in the mood, you can move on to touching her most intimate parts.

Delaying any kind of genital play makes the act more pleasurable and gives your partner enough time to get into the mood, and dripping wet for you.

6. Fondle them the right way

Once you are both at a juncture where you are ready to take it to the next level, you can indulge in some fondling.

Remember that breasts and nipples are extremely sensitive and they need a soft touch.

Whilst you gently caress and fondle them don't forget to talk to your woman.

Ask her to coach you so you know exactly what she wants. This is one of the most crucial erotic tips for men and this type of communication can help you both enjoy and tease each other.

7. Be gentle when you reach down there

Most men are unaware of this, but your woman's vaginal lips are made from the same cells as your scrotum. So being rough and harsh to them is like abusing your own scrotum.

Instead, if you touch them softly they will open up on their own. Similarly, a woman's clitoris is also extremely sensitive and gentle.

Don't attack it like a thirsty dog. Instead, you should stimulate her clitoris and be extra gentle. That's because a clitoris is made up of thousands of nerve endings that are packed together tightly.

That's why some women do not even like their clitoris touched by hand. At the most, a gentle caress is what they prefer. So do that.

Don't force oral sex on her either -- not all women like it.

It also helps to take a good hard look. Don't just poke around blindly. Look at your wife's vagina, look at what you're doing to it, and look at your wife's face while you do what you're doing down there.

Most importantly, ask your partner what they like and make this a pleasurable experience for the both of you.

These erotic tips for men will not only make your experience pleasurable, but also score you some brownie points for your sensitivity!

Now, go and have the best sex of your life...

Lead image -- a still from Jism 2 -- used for representational purposes only.

Deepshika Punj