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3 sex mistakes almost all Indian men make in bed

December 05, 2016 09:10 IST

Don't play with women like they're joysticks, thinking they twist in every direction you want them to, warns sexologist Dr Arun Patil.

IMAGE*: To make a woman feel more comfortable, Dr Arun Patil says, you should try to understand her needs. 

Many people, particularly Indians commit sex mistakes that ruin their sex life.

You need to get expert guidance to reduce these mistakes.

To begin with, you need to learn how to have good sex.

Whether you want to have a better orgasm, try something new in the bedroom, or plan a threesome, these sex tips will spice up your routine!

A change in thinking may improve your sex life.

Did you know that hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin; the hormone in women that creates a sense of connection and trust?

Take a look at some common mistakes men make in bed that may well be turning off their partners.

Mute sex

Many men tend to be silent while having sex. That's wrong!

You need to show her that you're enjoying her company.

Your silent attitude may make your women feel embarrassed. She may not feel good.

In fact not saying anything at all makes her wonder if she's actually pleasuring you.

The occasional moans and groans are not such a bad thing.

The nipple problem

A woman may not necessarily feel good when you bite her nipples.

Biting her nipples is a big mistake that every man should try to avoid.

You have to act gentle.

Like, seriously? It isn't like that's the only part the female body consists of, and honestly, excessive biting isn't sexy -- it just hurts.

Also, while we're on the subject, don't play with them like they're joysticks, thinking they twist in every direction you want them to.

Watch her face as you play with her breasts, and trust us when we say this -- you'll know exactly what to do and when.

Going too hard when riding her

To make a woman feel more comfortable, you should try to understand her needs.

Don't be afraid to ask questions like 'How does this feel?' or 'Do you want something different?'

You may have watched a lot of porn -- plenty to give you the misconception that simply thrusting yourself into a woman very hard, very fast will make her squeal in delight and orgasm all over the place.

This, we're sorry to disappoint you, almost NEVER happens.

In reality, you have to listen to her body language, or better yet, ask her if she's comfortable with the pace and angle.

The simple outcome of avoiding these mistakes -- you'll have more satisfying sex!

Follow good sex to beat all sexual mistakes you do in bed.

The author Dr Anil Patil is sexologist and consultant in holistic and integrated medicine; chairman and managing director of Vedicure clinic.

Lead image -- a still from Jism 2 -- published for representational purposes only.

Dr Anil Patil