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There just isn't any other way to say it -- a sex slip-up just isn't sexy, and to save all men from bedroom 'disasters', a leading sexologist has come to the rescue.
Dr. Yvonne K Fulbright, a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc, has come up with the top ten mistakes men make in bed, reports Perth Now.
The biggest mistakes men are as follows:
1. Foreplay doesn't start in the sack.
The timer for enticing does not start once you hit the sheets. Your pre-game show is best approached as an all-day affair.
Women love to be wooed. Sex is a head game -- in more ways than one -- and women want to know you can't get them out of your mind. We love knowing that we are desired.
2. Don't head south straight away.
Diving in for the genitals too soon usually isn't the best idea. A woman needs to be properly aroused before any below-the-belt action feels good.
Be sure to focus on her entire body -- head to toe -- before going for the gold.
3. Remember the clitoris.
Many men think a woman's orgasm results from penetration.
More than 70 per cent of women experience clitoral orgasm when it comes to maximum reaction, so men need to make sure they are not ignoring the clitoris.
It also helps if you actually know where the clitoris is -- some men have been known to rub the urethral opening, which can be a big no-no for some ladies.
4. Get to that G spot.
In digging for buried treasure, many guys don't know that 'X' doesn't always mark the spot. Found on the front wall of the vagina, a woman's G spot may be a little higher or lower, or more to one side than the other, than often depicted.
5. Don't be too goal-oriented.
There is nothing more endearing than a man who wants to play. Just don't get caught up in yourself. Your sexual exploration should be playtime for two.
Stay 'present' in the moment -- connecting with your partner will bring the ultimate climax for both of you.
6. Thinking you're still hot after gaining weight.
'For better or worse' should include weight fluctuations, but don't let yourself go completely.
7. Let her be naughty.
Sometimes she needs to get in touch with her adulterated side. In fact, research has found that women are more aroused by explicit fantasies than romantic ones. It's not always about the prince on a white horse or canoodling on the beach.
8. She's not a porn star.
As seen in porn films, many men expect their lovers to fulfill their every fantasy. Remember that porn is fantasy, not reality. Expecting her to act like a porn star is simply not fair.
9. And men aren't supposed to look like porn stars.
Despite what XXX-rated films indicate, most women are not lusting after a three-legged man. Maybe some women are up for the challenge, but many are fine with the guy who fits within the norm. Don't be too hard on yourself for being just that.
10. One orgasm is not always enough.
Women are not as quick to come down from their aroused state as men are post-sex. Many can be launched right back to bliss, and many women do crave more action and orgasms, even if they were perfectly satisfied the first time round.
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